“Cope” means to handle something unpleasant that is posed to you. Everyone copes, but some ways are better than others. Looking at how we cope, and what we want the outcome to be are important steps to improving our overall functioning in society. So what actually are the coping skills? Coping skills are abilities or talents employed to effectively respond to issues that result in disadvantage or adversity.
Coping skills are applied everyday, some with conscious thought, some without. Coping is a response to physical, cognitive, and psychological stressors. If one’s coping skills are not able to effectively address the stressor, there can be an increase in impaired functioning.
How to cope better
We cope with stressors everyday, often without even realizing it. When we cope with stressful events (even if it is a simple daily task), it is vitally important that we use healthy effective coping skills. For example if I become so anxious (stress) about taking my car to the mechanic (stressor) that I start hitting the steering wheel, crying and turn the car around and go home (coping), I have coped with the stressor. However, my coping was not effective in that I was not able to accomplish what I needed to do. All I did was make the stress go away, but I did not effectively cope with the stressor, and I may have additional problems later when my car’s problems get worse. Becoming aware of how you cope is the first step to improving your overall coping skill. Only then can you determine how effective your coping is, and how to improve your overall skill.
- Identify stressors, what causes you to feel stress?
- Determine how you cope, what do you do in response to the stresses?
- Rate how effective your coping is, are you able to accomplish what you want?
- Study how do others cope, what are some coping skills others use that you would like to employ.
- Select coping responses, how would you like to respond to the stressor.
- Reality testing, could you really easily employ the coping techniques you have selected?
- Adopt new skills, plan to use new effective coping skills.
Look at how you effectively cope with stressors and effective ways others cope with stressors. Make a list of effective coping skills that you could do in response to particular stressors. Choose some effective coping skills that you could realistically employ. Practice using the coping skill. Visualizing yourself employing a particular coping skill can help you use the skill when the stressor presents itself. Using all these techniques, you can easily cope with your problems in society as well as in your studies.